Pringles and prayer

This world often offers ‘the world’, through marketing their products, the allure of a quick fix or by making attractive but empty promises. In contrast, less lofty, more realistic and trustworthy promises only show themselves to be true, over time.

Recently, I had a conversation about misinformation; something that is all too common in a world where the richest, most powerful people dominate the speaking platforms. Those who control the narrative don’t always give a full, accurate, honest or unbiased picture of their position/product/promises.

The conversation on misinformation originated over the slogan,

“Breakfast is the most important meal of the day”.

During discussions with friends about reducing my eating window, three people told me:

“Jo, it was Kellogg’s who ‘sold’ this notion about breakfast.”

Oh! As a child, I unthinkingly swallowed these marketing lies/mistruths/whatever you want to call them, as easily as I swallowed Kellogg’s cornflakes. I took them as gospel. As an adult and one trained to master’s level in critical thinking, I realise the only thing that is gospel, is the gospel! Subsequently, I no longer swallow the ideas/opinions or bias of people without rigorously testing them first. I want to know whose opinion it is, why they are expressing it and what expertise they are basing their narrative on.

The world uses all kinds of tricks and promises to sell their version of ‘the world’ to us. I’ve lost count of the number of adverts claiming to make our lives perfect if only we buy whatever they are selling. In our instant, ‘I want it – please deliver it now’, culture, we have become spoiled in to thinking we can have whatever we want, whenever we want it if willing to throw some cash at it.

Back in real life, life continues to unfold on its own terms. Good, bad and mundane happens to every single one of us, regardless of what car we drive, the size of our bank balance or anything else. And we all do our best to navigate the hard times that remind us of our vulnerability and shared humanity.

Sometimes, we distract ourselves from our problems with scrolling on Facebook, ordering from Amazon, eating, drinking, smoking or anything else to distract or numb the unavoidable pain that life can bring.

In contrast, when something gives us a good feeling, we often want more of it! This is basic human nature; mine, yours and ours!

But it is not only the destructive habits that can leave us wanting more. I have always loved Pringles; strong flavour, good crunch factor, novel tube rather than a bag. Tick, tick, tick. However, I am also wise enough to know that as one who is lacking in self-control, I cannot cohabit with Pringles!

The advertising for Pringles offers one of the most honest straplines I have ever heard,

“Once you pop, you can’t stop!”.

It is true!

I can never remember the scientific details of what salt/additives/crap that pringles are filled with that is designed to make us go back for more. But I know through my lived, pringle-devouring-experience, that this is true for me!

Unfortunately, pringles are not the only sugar or salt filled snack that I can’t stop shovelling once I have started!

But, back to the fact that it is not only destructive habits that offer us a good feeling, which we want more of.

And this is where prayer comes in.

Like with pringles, I cannot remember the scientific facts that evidence the constructive impact of prayer on the body. But I know it is so. And my own life experience has seen me rigorously testing the efficacy of prayer over twenty one years.

I have learned:

  • God is not like Amazon; we cannot order and expect to receive whatever we want, whenever we want it. There is certainly no guarantee of a next day delivery
  • God’s timeline is vastly different to ours. This can look and feel like our prayers have disappeared into the abyss. Until we see the results
  • God hears every single prayer, but he has his own way of answering
  • Sometimes the biggest disappointments of unanswered prayers are God’s protection and redirection away from that we cannot see and towards that which only reveals itself in time
  • If it matters to us, it matters to God
  • Prayer has been scientifically proven to make a positive difference to people’s wellbeing
  • Prayer is not only for the big crisis events, but for all the daily challenges
  • God is creative and can answer prayers in unexpected ways
  • God is always listening and awaiting our prayers

Prayer does not have to be a huge super spiritual affair. It can simply be chatting to God about what you like and what you don’t! And most importantly, what you would appreciate his help with.

Prayer does not necessarily give us what we want, when we want it. But it reminds us that we are not alone. It can inspire hope that there is a force greater than us within the world which we can call upon for help. The act of prayer uplifts us. And it connects us to others when we pray for those we know are struggling. It reminds us of our shared humanity … vulnerability reminds us of our need for one another. And it may cause us to seek for greater meaning and spiritual insights that exist way beyond the world of materialism.

Prayer is free 24/7.

But be warned that once you commit to this as a practice, it changes you in a way that makes you want more. Not instantly in the way of the Pringle, but slowly and gradually as you start to see, to feel and to know that prayers are being answered.

Prayer is a non-negotiable part of my day and the more I see prayers answered (often for others), the more I want to talk to God and call upon his help. Which is a lot healthier and more helpful than turning to and indulging in Pringles or the like, when life gets tough!

Prayer is to the spirit what physio is to the body. When you make a consistent effort to do your part, you feel the benefits over time. This is in stark contrast to a world that promises we can have whatever we want, immediately, if only we throw some money at whatever is being sold.

Prayer is for all.

And the one who hears and answers, is FREE!

Unlike much of this world, God does not promise to make our life a wonderful, rainbow -only filled experience. He is honest enough to tell us what we don’t want to hear ie that tough times come to all. But what he does promise is to always be with us and help us to learn and grow through whatever we face. An offer which remains open for a lifetime. And unlike most of the world’s offerings, including Pringles, it doesn’t only give enjoyment in the moment.  Instead, it gives a sense of calm in the moments in between prayer too – and we get to decide how short or long we want those moments to be. Maybe based on how long that calm state lasts!

If you are curious, either pop a prayer card into the box at Bites n Breezes. Or come along to meet Shalom Ministries at the Arlesey Fayre on Saturday 5th September. And of course, you can simply pray yourself and see what happens. Over time!

A limitless love

I’m not a parent so I can’t and wont pretend to know what it is like to be one. I cannot know.

But, what I can and do know, is what it has been like for me to be parented by God Almighty via Jesus Christ. Like all relationships, the more time we spend in someone’s presence, the more we get to know them and discover about them. It is no different in our relationship with God. Having known him for twenty years I now know more about him than I ever have before.

Because of what I have learned, I am committed to continuing to learn about and from God. I have discovered there is nothing more challenging, liberating, amusing or plain enlivening. He is always seeking ways to show himself and speak to us but we’re often too distracted, busy or worried to notice his efforts. (At least, I know I am!) Or, he says something we don’t want to hear so we ignore it in favour of listening to those who will massage our egos, by only telling us what we want to hear! This is great if we wish to stay stuck, not so much if we are seeking the wisdom of God to help us move forward! We choose!

And, he is a God who is available to us all, every moment of every day. He is not a parent who ever turns us away despite the number of other children he has! He is with us 100% of the time whether it feels or looks like it, or not. And his heart is so far above our flawed, selfish hearts that God genuinely welcomes us, with whatever we have in our hearts. He never requires us to hide the hurts or emotions in our hearts that we may have been taught to feel ashamed or afraid of.

God made us; so he sees, knows and welcomes all that we house in our hearts. Especially the ugly emotions! He knows that these cause the most damage when we keep them inside. The latest research shows that unaddressed mental and emotional health impacts our immune systems. This leaves us more vulnerable to the attacks of sickness and disease, that none of us are exempt from. (Read The body keeps the score, by Bessel Van de Kolk, When the body says no, Gabor Mate, if interested in knowing more.)

In these stressful days where the privatisation of the NHS is already happening whether we want it to or not, many are only able to access the health care they need if they can afford to pay privately. Where does this leave those of who cannot afford to take this route?

I remind myself that God Almighty remains above, beyond and within those, under-pressure, yet still delivering what they can, members of the NHS workforce.

When I could not access the help I needed for peri/trauma/long covid/burnout/neurodivergence assessment, for three long, hard years, God sustained me. It didn’t feel like it at the time as my prayers felt stuck on repeat,

“Help me, heal me, help me, heal me. Purleeeaaaase help me, heal me.’

But eventually my pain eased enough for me to see that God was surrounding me with masses of amazing human beings who have loved and supported me – it is these people that I call ‘family’ and who have bought me through, when the NHS couldn’t.

I thank God that after three years, I found an excellent Gp who is now walking me through these health challenges.

Just this week, I have heard numerous people speak of their health issues which have been exacerbated by an inability to access health care, without going private. And even then, some people are still struggling to find medical professionals with the appropriate training or knowledge to address their health issues. Health really is critical to our quality and experience of life.

It would seem to me, biased as I am when it comes to twenty years lived experience of Jesus, that it is has never been more important to recognise that praying to God Almighty is not merely a last option, but one beyond waiting lists or insufficient resources.

The ability and invitation to pray in the name of Jesus remains open to every single one of us. And the God who hears, sees, knows and responds to every need of the human heart, does not ration or restrict our ability to approach him. He is the God and parent who welcomes us coming to him for his help, every time and without exception.

While I do not know what it is to be a parent, I have observed that healthy parenting involves trying to be available to meet a child’s needs, whether emotional, mental, physical or spiritual. We’re not plants so the food, water and shelter approach is not enough.

I take my hats off to parents for attempting such a feat on top of every other part of adulting. And there is no more important job than parenting in creating internal safety and esteem – no parent needs to be perfect as ruptures are inevitable but the working through of these is critical. It is essential to own struggles and ask for help where necessary. It seems insane that parents are not taught how to parent, despite it being the most important role a human can ever play in the life of a child. Those training courses that do exist are key.

But, even with the best will in the world, all of us humans, parents or not, have limitations.

God has no limits when it comes to loving us.

He calls us to have boundaries and to live within them for our own protection and wellbeing. However, God does not limit our calls to him – he hears and responds to every call and cry of the human heart. This does not mean he gives us everything we want, when or how we want it. He puts boundaries on our behaviour because he is not afraid to tell us no, when something is not healthy for us. But he never turns us away or dismisses our call for help. He comes to our aid every time, although not necessarily in our timing or in the way we want or expect! But he always responds.

There is no limit to how often we call out to him or how much help we ask him for. When we call upon the name of Jesus, for help with how we manage and respond to the challenges we face and on behalf of those we love (and some we don’t!), he comes running. He can’t not. This is who he is.

The bottom line is that every single one of us GOES through crap, but God Almighty offers us his helping hand to GROW through it and come out stronger, wiser and kinder.

That’s something I’m always going to ask for large portions of. And when we receive something in life, God’s help, that is wonderful beyond our human ability to comprehend it, I will always want to share it.

So, it gives me great joy to offer prayer to you via the prayer box in Bites & Breezes. You don’t need me to pray for you though, as you can cut out the middle woman and go straight to God yourself.

Please do – he’s a total legend with a sense of humour way superior to any of ours. If you like laughs, call upon the name of Jesus. But, be warned that sometimes the joke is on us!!  And sometimes these truths of God’s can evoke an ouch or two, but always his truths bring a freedom that bs never will!